π Goals & Values
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π About this Section:
Goals & Values helps connect your sexual wellbeing goals to your core values, guiding your actions and ensuring your journey aligns with what truly matters to you and who you want to be in your heart. Regularly revisiting them keeps your goals aligned with your desires, helping you stay in tune with the intimate life you want to create.
πΊοΈ What Guides You?
How do you want to show up in your life, relationships, and sexual wellbeing? π±
When we make decisions based on our values - rather than our fears - it leads us to a more fulfilling and meaningful life. Sometimes, we become so fixated on the destination that we forget the journey is just as important. Your values are your compass; your goals are the places you want to reach.
π§ Values > πGoals
π Your Goals are the destinations you hope to arrive at.
π§ Your Values are the principles that guide your actions, helping you move in the right direction.
π§ Your Values are the principles that guide your actions, helping you move in the right direction.
βValues as Your North Star
Your values act as your North Star, guiding how you navigate relationships and sexual wellbeing. They influence how you care for yourself and connect with others, providing direction in moments of uncertainty. By understanding what matters most to you in these areas, you can align your actions with your core beliefs.
This reflection supports progress in both intimacy and self-care, leading to a deeper sense of fulfillment when your values are in harmony with your actions.
π Examples of Values:
π Examples of Values:
βNo matter what happens..β
- π β..I embrace my experiences, others, and life with openness and understanding." (Acceptance)
- β€οΈ β...I approach myself and others with kindness, empathy, and care.β (Compassion)
- π β...I live authentically, speaking and acting truthfully with myself and others.β (Honesty)
- π β...I face challenges with strength and perseverance, continuing even when itβs tough.β (Resilience)
- π β...I recognise my thoughts, emotions, and actions, understanding their impact on myself and those around me.β (Self-Awareness)
π―Values-Based Sexual Wellbeing Goals
Goals should always be grounded in your values - they need to move you closer to what you truly desire. When your goals bring you joy and fulfillment, youβll know youβre on the right path. And if you ever feel the need to adjust them, itβs a sign of growth and realignment!
Prioritise what matters most to you - your happiness, desires, and needs. As you work toward your sexual wellbeing goals, regularly check in with yourself. Does this feel right? Is it bringing you closer to the life and experiences you truly want?
Itβs perfectly okay to revise your goals if they no longer align with your happiness or sense of fulfillment.
Remember, values are present in the here and now, while goals are specific milestones we aim to reach at a given moment.
πExamples of Sexual Wellbeing Goals
(and the values they correspond to):
(and the values they correspond to):
- πͺ I want to feel confident in my body β (Self-Acceptance)
- π£οΈ I want to communicate my needs better β (Communication)
- π I want to better understand my desires β (Self-Awareness)
- πββοΈ I want to prioritise self-care β (Self-Respect)
- π§ββοΈ I want to be present and engaged during sex β (Mindfulness)
- π« I want to be okay with saying βnoβ when something doesnβt feel right β (Boundaries)
- β€οΈ I want to build a deeper emotional connection with myself (or a partner) β (Emotional Intimacy)
- πΈ I want to focus on enjoyment, not perfection β (Acceptance)
- ππ§ I want to explore my sexuality in a safe way β (Safety & Exploration)
- π I want to wear clothes that make me feel confident β (Self-Expression)
βοΈ Reflective Task: Your Values-Based Goals
Take a moment to pause and think about what you truly want for your sexual health and wellbeing. Think about how you want to feel in your body and in your relationships.
Grab a piece of paper and answer these questions:
- What do I want to improve in my sexual wellbeing? List 1-3 goals max.
- What does achieving each goal look like?
- How will I feel once I achieve each goal?
- Name the value that each goal brings to life.
Coming back to your values-based goals gently reminds you of what truly matters. They act as a guide for your actions in relationships and sexual wellbeing. Regularly revisiting them ensures your goals align with your deeper desires, keeping you connected to the intimate life you want to create.
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